I can’t think of a bigger deal breaker than going on a date with someone and having them announce at dinner that they’re still married.
Just super casual, you know, like, “Oh, I don’t like mushrooms. Want some garlic bread? I’m still married.”
CAN I HAVE ANOTHER VODKA PLEASE???
I know there are a lot of intricacies surrounding marriage and divorce, it’s all very legal and drawn out and if you live in South Carolina, you need to be separated for an entire calendar year before you can be legally divorced, but still.
It’s certainly one of those situations that proper phrasing can help lessen the blow.
Like, “I’m still married, but at midnight my calendar year is up so LET’S GET TWO ORDERS OF GARLIC BREAD!!”
But I suppose it would help to make some sort of comment about how you plan to get divorced as soon as possible.
That was not the route Samuel took.
Samuel, who went on a date with my friend Kelly, announced (quite cheerily) that he was still married, and wasn’t planning on getting divorced at all.
“Well, my ex-wife really likes the health benefits,” he said.
“What?” Kelly asked.
“Yea, I’m in the military and so she gets really good health benefits,” he said. “We don’t live together or anything, but she still gets to use them.”
(Ed note: UM, FRAUD)
Samuel didn’t say that his wife (WIFE) had a terminal illness or anything else that would necessitate needing to be on his free health plan. They didn’t have children.
DID HE THINK THIS JUST MADE HIM A NICE GUY???
Was she really supposed to believe this??
“Don’t worry, we haven’t been together for three years,” Samuel said, sensing Kelly’s hesitation with this health plan.
Kelly was already planning her escape.
“So what if you want to get married again?” she asked.
Samuel’s response was hilarious.
“Don’t worry, I haven’t met a woman who I want to marry in the past three years,” he said.
(FYI Kelly was hardly worried.)
“But if I met the right person, yea of course I’d discuss getting a divorce with her.”
The whole story sounded fishier than the dinner special.
…Which Samuel ended up eating…by himself.